Really, this is number one. Please presume my competence.
#1 Please talk to me like everyone else.
#2 Please don’t talk about me in front of me. I can hear you. I can read your lips. I can read your body language. It feels terrible. Sad. But it feels great when you treat me like I am smart.
#3 Please talk directly to me, not to my support person, or my mom, Russ or my sisters.
#4 Please focus on my strengths. I have many. We all do.
#5 Please presume my competence.