Love Not Fear.

Henry Frost on Autism Acceptance

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Two Houses a story of Autism Acceptance.

There are two houses. There are two boys that live in these houses. Each house inside has one family living. Each member of each family has different ways of being.

House Number One

One house has the family that tells the boy he is loved . The family is not a family without the boy. All of the family members are loved as they are.

They are loved for being.

The boy is loved as he is. He is educated. He is respected. He is heard.

His family say they are so lucky that he is their child. He is the son they dreamed of having.

The boy is the family . The house is full of love.

The boy is surprised one day . Some people say to his family the boy is lucky to have a family that takes care of him. The people say this in front of the boy. They say he is so lucky to have this family. They say they could not take care of a boy like him.

The boy hears his family tell the people they are the lucky ones to have him as a son. The boys family tells the people they should not say these things about their son. They tell the people he understands everything any 8 year old understands.

The boy sees the look on the sad, unknowing faces of the people. The family avoids those people.

The boy is sad that his family did not warn him about people with these thoughts.

The boy is also angry . He knows these people are wrong.

House Number Two

The other house has the family that tells the boy he is loved.

The family is a family only for some.

The family lives in the house together, but the boy is alone.

The boy hears the family say it is very hard to have a son like him. He hears the family say that he makes them tired and sick. He hears the family talk of sadness about the boy he is not.

He hears them say he does not understand them when they speak to him. He hears them say he doesn’t not understand anything. He hears them say he can not learn but they send him to school so they can have a break from him.

The boy is not surprised when he hears people say, “the boy is lucky to have a family that takes care of him”. He is not surprised when hears his family agree with them. He sees the family smile so proud  when the people say they could not do it. They could not take care of a boy like him.

He hears them say they are sad about the boy he is not. He the boy is not the boy they were dreaming of.

He hears his family tell people he does not understand what 8 year old students understand .

The boy is sad his family did not warn him about people with these thoughts. He hoped these thoughts were only in the family. He hoped life would be different one day.

Questions:

Where do you want to live?

Is the first boy right to be angry and sad? Is the second boy right to be sad?

Should the families warn the boys about prejudice?

What is the responsibility of society ?

About the Author:

In 2012 Henry faced disability based discrimination when he was denied entry to the middle school across the street from his home. Then 12 year old Henry started “I STAND WITH HENRY” to take action against the segregation and low expectations he encountered and to empower others to stand together and demand full access to equal education in their neighborhoods. Henry’s international social media campaign garnered tens of thousands of supporters and he was allowed entry into his neighborhood school after months of negotiation. Henry went on to excel not only in General Education but it Advanced Honors and Gifted classes.He was the 2013 Recipient of the Autistic Self Advocacy Network's Award for Service to the Self-Advocacy Movement. You can find Henry @istandwithhenry on Facebook and Twitter.

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