Ever since the not guilty verdict in the George Zimmerman trial and more recently, after a police officer shot and killed Michael Brown, I have been and continue to be very much afraid in the pit of my stomach. The not guilty verdict and the dragging on of the no fault attitude in Michael Brown’s shooting underlines the fact that in our society it is perfectly ok to track down, shoot and kill someone perceived to be acting different.
We fear people who are different from us. Differences come in many forms. If you are White then someone Black is different. If you are neurotypical then someone autistic is different.
The majority is considered the norm and they hold the privilege and power. This can be in regards to race, ethnicity, sexual orientation, gender and neurology or almost any area where you can find a dividing line among people.
I am autistic and have known all my life that my neurology is considered to be “wrong” by the majority. It is easy to know this by simply looking at almost any of the therapies out there for autism where the measure of success is in terms of how neurotypical an autistic person can come to look.
I think this measure is a wrong measure and I believe it to be a huge betrayal of autistics. Today I have the new understanding that even though it is fundamentally wrong to make autistics act as if they are who they are not…well, it also may be life-saving if they should meet up with the George Zimmerman’s of the world. In fact, even having a chance encounter with a police officer could mean an autistic gets to live only if able to act neurotypical.
Many autistics look and act different because they have a different neurology. Some of us have spent a great deal of time and effort to learn to look in a way that allows us to fit in so that we might have more opportunities in this world. But even on our best days we can become easily overwhelmed as our body betrays us when sensory input, emotions and movement do not automatically regulate and serve us well.
We have learned to cope. Some of us wear hoodies and noise cancelation devices to cut down on sensory input. This makes us look different. People become afraid of us because they assume we are up to no good.
Some of us regulate by stimming. This can include, pacing, muttering a phrase repeatedly, hand flapping, rocking or a variety of other repetitive movements or phrases. This makes us look different. People back away from us because they are afraid.
Many of us do not look people in the eye because it is painful or overwhelming to us. Some of us do not have reliable use of spoken words when we are under stress and others of us never use spoken words. It is assumed we are shifty, sneaky and not to be trusted. Others become afraid of us.
All of my coping mechanisms to cut down on sensory input and to regulate my sensory system, emotions and movement are things that make me look different from the norm. My coping mechanisms can make me look scary to others, but if I don’t stay regulated I will only look scary sooner.
I have been told that I am one of the lucky ones – lucky because I have an awareness of how I am perceived as different and scary when I am overwhelmed. Many autistics do not have this awareness. There are others who are aware, but do not have the ability to inhibit their natural autistic self for several hours of the day.
The stakes are high. They always have been. An autistic under stress can look scary to the general public. I feel so bad when other people are afraid of me only because of how I look different. But now I know that the stakes are even higher than I thought.
You see, it doesn’t matter the bazillion of times I or other autistics act correctly in the eyes of society, but the one time we are not able to inhibit our own self is the time we could be killed for who we are – a human being with an autism neurology. If another person is carrying a gun and thinks we are up to no good or is afraid of us he is allowed to shoot us.
I feel horrible for even having to think this way, let alone write about it – and yet, it has become the society we live in. I have known all my life that I am different. People do not understand autism. People fear what they don’t understand. George Zimmerman’s jury came back with a “not guilty” verdict. Michael Brown’s life was taken several weeks ago and regardless of the outcome to the police officer, Michael Brown will not come back to life. Being perceived as different got him shot and killed.
Today I know that society believes it is ok for anyone who is afraid of my difference to follow after me, shoot and kill me. This is why I am much afraid in the pit of my stomach.
JUDY ENDOW, MSW
Judy Endow, MSW is an autistic author, artist and international speaker on a variety of autism related topics. Read more from Judy on Ollibean here and on her website www.judyendow.com.
This is a theme in my mind today. I was thinking that if I could just mimic the acceptable personality type… That I could hide my abnormality and be ok. I’m hating when people catch on that I’m not like them.
Well said, Judy and Kerima.
I can understand to a point. But these two individuals did not just look different. They assaulted and threatened/tried to shoot police officers. That is more than just acting or looking different.
Harry Knopp, the presumption that everyone who is shot by a policeman is a thug, and everyone who says Michael Brown was hunted down is part of a group of “race-baiters” goes hand in hand with the presumption that all police are just fighting thugs to make your own negative views of race and minority apparent. If all police were just in their actions there would be no need for internal affairs, nor would the 2nd amendment been necessary. Your declarations and rude comments to the author show you have little understanding of what she posted. She has experienced discrimination based on her neurological divergence and realizes that as abuse of power in law enforcement escalates, anyone who is diverse could be unfairly targeted. Your overconfidence that this will never happen to you or anyone who is not a “thug” is incorrect. She is discussing those who abuse power, not police officers who enforce laws correctly. All black males shot by police are not thugs. Your use of offensive language does not make your points valid nor does your diminishing of people who live with racism. Thank you Judy Endow for this well written and thought provoking piece. You are spot on. When anyone diverges from the dominant group they are a potential target of anyone who hates that difference, and if that person carries a badge the consequences are devastating. The more aggression is aimed at one group the more it will spill over on any minority. This has nothing to do with criminality. The disparities in governance and lack of representation in law enforcement in Ferguson make it clear that much is wrong that led to these events. As an individual who grew up in and spent most of my life in a US military culture, the differences between what law enforcement would have done in other places, what the military would have done and what was done by the police in Ferguson are stark and apparent and wrong. This should concern all citizens. In the end no one is immune to maltreatment if there is an abuse of power. The presumption that one’s race, or good behavior exempts them from abuse is naive at best and dangerous at worst. People should remember the words of Pastor Martin Niemöller: And then they came for me –